Thank You.. You Saved My Life

I received a call during the height of the Iraq war from Iraq.

It was a former student of mine. A US army Officer. He had

called me to tell me "Thank you....You saved my Life."

He then went on to recount how he led a raid on a house,

after shots were fired at his command unit from the house during

a routine patrol.

He was the first man in and when he kicked the door down, he found

himself with a rifle pressing against his neck.

He immediately assessed the situation and saw a very nervous

man, behind the man were a couple of women and the realization

hit.... They were in the Wrong House. This was a father defending

his family.

The problem was his team was right behind him and all they

knew was someone had put an AK47 to his head. He quickly

disarmed the man using a technique that I had taught him

then stood between him, his two wives and 17 children so

that they would not be shot by his very worried team.

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Over my 25 years of teaching I have heard "Thank you...

You saved my life" many, many times. From police officers

to women who avoided violence.

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My Father used to say "It's not boasting if you are telling the

truth." So I say this to you.

I am one of the best in the the world in the field of self-protection.

I am an internationally recognized expert, author of books and DVDs,

Head of an international Jujitsu system, and a sought after Seminar

instructor.

In fact if you can find someone with my qualifications in the Bahamas

I will personally pay for your lessons.

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Let me help you to Stop Living in Fear

Click here for 12 free videos on Self Protection

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I am offering 30 days FREE for my kickboxing/jujitsu/ self defense course.

The course meets Tuesday 7:15 - 9 pm and Saturdays 12 noon to 1 pm

at my Headquarters on Joe Farrington Road.

What are you waiting for?

All the best to you.

God Bless.

Professor D'Arcy Rahming

9th degree Black Belt

Trainer of Life Champions

Youth Olympian and Pan American Medalists

www.allstarbahamas.blogspot.com

P.S. You don't need to be in shape to start and you don't need any experience.

We now have an 82 year old woman practicing with one of my Instructors:-)

Upcoming Grappling Tournaments

All Star Family Centre will be holding 2 judo ground grappling tournaments before the end of the year.

The dates are: Oct 30 and Nov 27.

Time: 5-8pm

Where: Xavier's Lower School Hall

Ages: 3 to adult

Cost: $25

The theme for the first tournament is: Winning with Positions and Pins.

The theme for the second tournament is: Ne waza (grappling)

More details will follow.

Thanks,
Sensei D'Arcy Rahming

www.mmabahamas.com

p.s. These are not Bahamas Judo Federation tournaments, so other grappling and wrestling schools are welcome to participate.

How to Create a Desire to Achieve

Many people tell me that they can't get their kids motivated to do

anything.

Yet they continue to "reward" this behavior by catering to

every whim of the child. Even in some cases to compromising

their own ethics and standards to provide material rewards.

Then they look around and wonder "what happened?" when the kid

turns out to be a loser.

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Tip #1

Put your kid into situations that challenge him and take him outside

of his comfort zone.

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I just watched this documentary on the Kids boxing program in Cuba.

Click Here to see the Video.

This video inspired me and made me realize that our Judo program in

the Bahamas is on track.

I am not suggesting we in the Bahamas adopt this Cuban model at all.

I do NOT believe that separating kids from their parents, keeping them

under-nourished and focused primarily on one thing only will create a

balanced person.

Nor do I believe that having a kid play video games and watch TV for

hours a day (separating them from their parents), feeding them junk

food (under-nourishing them) and focusing only on whether they

are getting good grades in academics (focusing them only on the

intellectual) will create a balanced person either.

This seems to be the new Bahamian model.

The Mystics of all religions understood this common thing:

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Great poverty and great wealth have the same impact on the

human Spirit.

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One of these impacts is a lack of desire to achieve.

May I suggest a third way. Put your kid in a physical activity that challenges

him and places him way beyond his physical and mental capabilities. Preferably

an Olympic sport that he can master given enough time.

Of course I am biased as to what that activity should be. That is why I teach

the martial arts.

Click here for a schedule of my classes.

I was an adult before I realized that not everyone wanted to

better their circumstances. It took me a long time to realize

that most people were happy right where they were. And that

people measure success differently.

Indeed, being comfortable in your circumstances can bring a

sense of peace.

Unfortunately this can also be a great negative.

Many people satisfy with average and are comfortable just getting

by. The problem with that is average today means that you are on

the bottom.

Aim to achieve.

God Bless.

Professor D'Arcy Rahming

9th degree Black Belt

Trainer of Life Champions,

Youth Olympian and Pan American

Medalists

www.mmabahamas.com

p.s. I am convinced that our Elite Competition Judo Team Model

is superior to that of most countries. Consider enrolling and/or

upgrading your kids to the Elite Team.

Click Here for More Information on the Elite Team

Why Just Telling a Kid to Toughen Up is NOT Enough to Stop Bullies...

Bullying is often done in secret.

That is why the wrong kid sometimes get the blame.

I know of instances where a kid has been mentally and

physically tortured by other kids and decided to finally

retaliate violently.

Then the kid was disciplined by the school for being overly

aggressive in his response to what appeared to be a minor problem.

That is why I do not believe in these zero tolerance policies.

The WHOLE situation must be examined.

I also know of parents who have threatened little kids who are

bullying their kids with violence, because they know that they

are making life a living hell for their child.

I'm not condoning this type of behavior... NEVER. But I do

understand how it could get to this point.

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Tip #1

Just TELLING a kid to stand up for himself is not enough

to deter bullies and rarely works.

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Often times kids can't stand up. There is something in the

way the bully has set things up that makes the bullied person

feel that he has no power to make a change in this situation.

Remember bullying begins with an imbalance of power. Two against

one, a more accepted social group, a larger kid, etc.... These are

all ways that power manifests itself.

If it starts with an imbalance of power. a successful plan must first

correct the imbalance.

Sometimes it is the bullied person's emotional and psychological

make up that makes it difficult for them to react to the threat.

Sometimes it is the school environment itself, as the bullied kid does

not believe adults can or will help them. Why? Because previous cries

for help have been ignored or the bully has been allowed to create

this type of perception.

So what should be the first step to correct this imbalance.

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Tip #2

Identify what is causing the imbalance of power and move to

shift the power back in the favor of the bullied person.

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As a parent, you may have to pick your child up from school at an

earlier time to deny the bully access to your child.

You might have to enroll your child in self defense classes

to increase his confidence.

I repeat. It is often NOT as simple as saying, "Oh, toughen up kid!"

If you want him to get tougher, you have to give him the tools to be so.

Click here for a schedule of my classes.

You may have to visit the child's teacher or visit the bully's parents.

What do you say?

No matter what the situation, unless there is an imminent physical threat

with no persons of Authority available to step in, direct violence should

be the LAST step in trying to solve the problem and it may only make the

situation worse.

Therefore the kid's personal plan should begin with what is called VERBAL JUDO.

I'll talk about verbal Judo and why I think it is a good starting point

in the next article.

God Bless.

Professor D'Arcy Rahming

9th degree Black Belt

Trainer of Life Champions,

Youth Olympians and Pan Am Medalist.

www.mmabahamas.com

P.S.

Any plan must involve increasing the student's confidence.

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How to Make Sure That Your Child Can Handle A Bully

Age 5 to 11 is a great time to start MMA Judo.

Part 2 of what is the best age to start MMA Judo.

It's this age that the kids begin to learn specific skills of

self defense and self confidence.

It's also usually here that the kids either become bullies,

bystanders or the bullied...

I've had to counsel kids in all of these categories.

I can tell you from personal experience being in any of these

categories can be pretty devastating to a kid.

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Tip #1

Anyone can be bullied.

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First of all let's define bullying so we put the right solution

to the right problem.

Bullying has four components to it:

1. an imbalance of power
2. threats of further aggression
3. an intent to harm
4. the above three points lead to terror

And I do mean terror. Some kids being bullied will

avoid going to school. Kids will begin to wet their beds,

grades will drop.

If your kid is a bully, YOU are going to suffer because you

will find yourself in the Principal's office defending this

kid over and over again or worse at the Police station.

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Tip #2

Confidence is the beginning of being able to avoid a bully.

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I have many examples of students who were being bullied

then developed the confidence to put a plan into action and

stop the bullying, when even the adults around seemed to be

at a loss of what to do.

In the next part I am going to talk with you about how bullying

takes place and why the wrong kid is often punished.

God Bless.

Professor D'Arcy Rahming

9th degree Black Belt

Trainer of Life Champions,

Youth Olympian and Pan American Medalists

p.s.

Get everyone in the family involved.

Click here for a schedule of my classes

How to Develop Mental Toughness - Part 2

I once saw my Judo teacher cry....

It was during the time he was talking about an experience

he had in World War II. He was telling me about how he

lost a lot of friends to a Japanese sniper who displayed

incredible toughness by taking on impossible odds...

They threw everything they had at this guy until....well you

know what happens during a war.

The mental toughness of this unknown enemy soldier was

one of the reasons my teacher went to Japan to learn martial

arts and therefore in some strange way I owe the knowledge

of martial arts transferred from my teacher to his unknown enemy.

My teacher taught thousands of people and so have I. Mental

toughness is indeed contagious.

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Tip #2

Mental Toughness can only be developed through troubled times.

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Many people crumble at the first sign of trouble. That's why society

is falling apart. If it is not easy, most people simply quit and move on to

the next thing.

Parents condone this behavior by making constant excuses for their

children. They want the child's life to be pain free. Unfortunately without

a struggle there can be no growth.

In my martial art classes I create a safe form of "trouble" to allow the kids

to learn how to become mentally tough. I often have kids spar with kids

just a little larger or more experienced than them as part of the training.

The larger kid is always told not to hurt the smaller one, but not to allow

him to win.

Sometimes the smaller kid will cry in frustration.

I never stop the action unless there is a physical injury. And physical

injuries are VERY VERY rare. But emotional frustration is common.

I let the kid fight through the tears. After a while the kid stops crying

and continues to spar because he has to. Quitting is not an option.

Usually he feels accomplished afterward because he didn’t quit. The

student leaves class on a high because he knows he is tougher than

when he entered.

My hope is that when he encounters a problem in his job or marriage

or church life that he won't quit because he knows it will not kill him

and that the goal is worth the struggle.

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All the best to you.

Sensei D’Arcy Rahming

9th degree Black Belt

Internationally renowned Author

www.mmabahamas.com

p.s. October is a great month to start classes.

click here for a schedule of my classes

Why Are We So Mentally Soft?

Part 1 - How to Develop Mental Toughness.

I sometimes have the students say positive affirmations
during class. “A winner never quits and a quitter never wins!”
is my favorite one because it speaks to mental toughness.

Fact: At some point in life, things are going to get tough. It
does not matter your level of wealth, fitness or health... at
some point in life the thing that you value most is going to be
challenged and then you are going to find out who you
really are.

My job as Sensei is to prepare you for that tough time... to
give you the tools you need so that you do not crumble when
others need you to be strong.

And to make sure that these skills are transferrable to situations
other than the martial arts.

I’ve been teaching since 1987 and I’ve had many experiences
in building mental toughness. When I see my students toughening
up I know I’m doing a great job and it's also nice when someone
comes and tells me that my teaching helped them or their kid.

Click here for video

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Tip #1
Mental toughness begins with having a clear goal
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In war colleges, they call this the Principle of the Objective.
Simply put - stay focused on what you are trying to accomplish,
despite the obstacles that will come your way.

So here is my formula to help develop mental toughness in students.

Set a goal slightly beyond reach, identify what is stopping you mentally
from achieving the goal, design drills with obstacles to help you
eliminate the mental barriers.
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In part 2 Well talk about the importance of tears.

All the best to you.

Sensei D’Arcy Rahming
9th degree Black Belt
Internationally renowned Author
www.mmabahamas.com
p.s. October is a great month to start classes.
click here for a schedule of my classes

Good Drills Involve Mind, Body and Emotional State

Part 3 on How to Develop Self-Discipline

Drills for self discipline can give you the tools for success.

But only CORRECTLY developed drills that look at the MIND,

BODY and EMOTIONAL state really improve a person's character.

Let's take some practical examples, physical drills only develop

skills, that is why you can have very corrupt military and

police.

Mental drills deal with the intellect and that is why you can

have a guy who is a genius in Math or Academics, be a

complete loser when it comes to dealing with human beings.

Emotional drills that deal with what we call the "spirit" of an

individual, and I am not talking religion per se here, can still

lead to people in Authority who abuse their office.

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Tip #1

A successful drill for self discipline must first assess the

needs of the individual.

click here for a schedule of my classes.

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Let's take a practical example:

My challenge is to teach a thirty something white collar worker

whose goal is to find the discipline to get in shape while losing

some weight and learning self defense.

Any drills designed on the physical side must use time so that

the individual can work at their own pace. In other words, punching

a pad for 3 minutes is different than executing 200 punches within

3 minutes.

The drill must take into account the person's mental state. Drills

must be explained patiently so that the person is aware how to

perform the drill correctly. Some people require more explanation

than others.

The emotional state is key. If the person has just had a brutal

day at the office, care must be taken to be encouraging and

making the experience as positive as possible so that the

person will be excited to come back.

You can't have self discipline without a lot of repetition.

May I suggest that you try one of our classes, find the right one

for you that fits your schedule. Here is a video of what the classes

are like.

Click here for video

And here is the schedule for the classes.

Click here for the schedule

In the Part 4 I will talk about the need to find the right teacher

or coach.

All the best to you.

Sensei D'Arcy Rahming

9th degree Black Belt

Internationally Renowned Author

www.mmabahamas.com

p.s.

I am launching a Mother/Daughter 8 week course for the month of October.

It will be great fun.

Click Here for the Video

How to Develop Skills of Self Discipline - Part 2

Drills are the best way to instill discipline.

Drilling something means you do it over and

over again. You do it until it becomes muscle

memory, emotional memory, and deep in the

intellect.

When we think of drilling we think of the military,

but its actually a lot more simpler than that.

An example of a drill is having a kid say "good

morning" or "good afternoon."

This means that the kid recognizes other people

and respects that another human is in the room.

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Tip # 1

Discipline must be taught and cultivated

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Just like a garden many kids are growing like

wild weeds. As parent, you are the Gardener

and MMA Judo programs like mine are the water

that you pour on the plants.

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Discipline must be practiced until it becomes

second nature. This does not mean drilling can't be fun.

Indeed the mark of a good teacher is the

ability to disguise repetition.

Kids have to be able to transfer the skills that they

learn to other areas of their life. It is of no use for a kid

to be a champion in the ring and a loser in life.

That is why the All Star Judo programs

have a holistic approach so that the parents, the

school, and the dojo (gym) all reinforce the same

messages.

Click Here for a schedule of my classes.

In the next part, I will talk more about how successful

drills must effect the physical state, the emotional state

and the intellectual state of an individual in order

to be effective.

All the best to you.

D'Arcy Rahming

9th degree Black Belt

Internationally Renowned Author

www.mmabahamas.com

p.s.

I have a some great get in shape classes for adults

Click here to see the schedule

How to Develop Skills of Self-Discipline - Part 1

FACT: A person with good self-discipline will ALWAYS

be more successful than a person who lacks self-discipline.

Anyway that you measure success, this is true...

After teaching thousands of people in several countries

for the past 25 years or so, I have developed some clear

thoughts on this subject.

I have developed a successful method of teaching self-discipline.

My students, both male and female range from ages 3 to 75.

Click here for testimonials

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Tip #1

Self-discipline MUST be taught. Very few people possess

this as a gift. It is a skill that must be learned.

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But first let's get a definition.

Discipline by Webster's definition is to educate; to develop

by instruction and exercise; to train.

That is why most people think of discipline as providing

punishment to correct a behavior.

It is also why when people talk about discipline they are

often talking about it being applied to someone else.

There seems to be two main reasons that people come

to me for martial arts lessons: self-defense or to help

them become more disciplined.

My job is fortunately more positive. As a teacher, my job

is to get a student to discover his own learning style and

how to stick with a concept until he reaches some

predetermined goal.

That's why my school is called "The School of Self-Discipline."

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I will have done my job if the student has learned enough

self-discipline to transfer the skills learned at the school (dojo)

to other parts of his or her life.

In Part 2 - I will talk about why drills are the best way to become

self-disciplined.

All the best to you.

Sensei D'Arcy Rahming

9th degree Black Belt

Internationally Renowned Author and Seminar Leader

www.mmabahamas.com

p.s.

Check out our MMA/Kickboxing/Jiujitsu classes

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How Extracurricula Activities Can Get Your Kids into the Best Universities

FACT: Top universities today have difficulty determining who are the candidates

that will add the most to their student body. Successful applicants

need more than just good grades.

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Universities KNOW that life skills are developed outside of the classroom

and measured by your success in Extracurricular Activities.

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But then the question "Which activity should my child be required to master?"

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Tip #4

Put your child in a NON TEAM activity that they can have at least regional level

success in.

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This looks REALLY good on a college application. Make sure it is

an individual sport and not a team sport, so the child can

really stand out.

I realize that signing up a short kid for basketball, an overweight kid

for soccer, a highly uncoordinated kid for baseball because they LIKE

it is important for the emotional well being of the child. And peace in

the house.

But they have no realistic future in these highly competitive sports.

I chose the martial arts for myself because I was not particularly fast

and not too strong. But yet I went on to be a world renowned expert,

international seminar leader and a Karate champion.

I later turned this into a career where I develop champions in the martial

arts. They say charity begins at home, so the first champions I developed

were my children.

All three wanted to quit by age 15, and all three won championships up

to regional levels and the last one even won a match at the Youth Olympics.

Click here to see Cynthia's Heroic Journey.

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Two of my kids are now at top Universities in part because they were

national and regional champions in the sport of Judo.

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My kids are also pioneers in the sport because not everyone plays Judo,

so it was easier to make national teams and win national tournaments.

Because it is an individual sport, it is easier to win at an international level

because you are not dependent on an entire team.

Imagine if I had tried to get the same result with basketball. LOL!

All the best to you.

Regards,

Sensei D'Arcy Rahming

9th Degree Black Belt

Internationally renowned author

www.mmabahamas.com

P.S.

Martial arts are about finding a way to win, so regardless of your

size, height or strength you can still become a champion. Get

your kid registered today.

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Why Better Grades are Not Enough to Succeed in Life....

Part 3 of Why Extra Curricula Activities May be More Important

than Academics

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Introduction

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A lot of people believe the major problem facing our country

today is crime....

I believe the major problem is the inability to work together

while respecting each other's dignity, and this causes the crime,

poor attitudes and the lack of a work ethic!

For the most part we are simply not competitive on an

international level and we actually believe we can solve

this problem by people getting better grades in Math and

English.

Let's be honest - in Math and English a person's character

is a secondary issue to getting the answer’s correct on a test.

The hope for academics is that you will develop the ability

to reason by mastering the core subjects. But good school

systems have begun to recognize that you must develop the

whole person: intellect, physical education (P.E) and

emotional state.

The truth is when it comes time for job and social advancement,

the ability to get along with others is far more important in most

cases than how "smart" you are.

By the way, I am an Academic. I am a Lecturer at COB

and I have a Bachelors in Electrical Engineering

and a Master’s in Management from Northwestern

University (one of the world’s top business schools).

Yet I choose to teach Martial Arts for a career, because

it is where I believe I can make my greatest contribution.

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Tip # 3

Treat extra curricula activities with the SAME VALUE that

you treat the core academic subjects.

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The Martial Arts provide a complete PE system that also

focuses on the intellect and the emotional state.

Judo for example was created by one of Japan's leading

educators as a tool for personal development to address

in part the shortcomings of non physical academics.

In Part 4, I will discuss why straight A's alone are unlikely

to get you into the college of your choice or the job that

you desire.

All the best to you.

Sensei D’Arcy Rahming

9th degree Black Belt

Trainer of Olympians and Life Champions

Click here for my private class schedules.

PS (Please pass this on to others who you know will

benefit from these tips.)

If You Let Your Kids Quit They Will Hate you For it Later...

Part 2 of Why Extra Curricula Activities May be More Important

than Academics.

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If you let your kid quit the extra curricula activity that you

want for them when it gets tough or boring, the kid will blame

you for it later. This is a fact.

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Kids that I taught in primary school are now taking my class in

College. Many of them say the exact same things “ I wish my

Mom (Dad) had not let me quit. I would be a Black Belt by now.”

Worse for me is counseling a young person who says their

parents were afraid to be parents and instead let them do what

they wanted, and now they are leading a life of average.

Which as we all know average today is a life on the bottom.

Read the book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters

(Margaret J. Meeker MD) and it will

give you the scientific evidence of what I am telling you.

In the case of girls they are apparently just testing you to

see if they are worth fighting for. They are not necessarily

rebelling against the activity.

In the case of guys many of them do not want to be

interrupted in what they are doing now. For example,

if they are watching TV or playing a video game, it is

not that they do not want to go to practice, it is more

that you are breaking their pattern of thought.

Kids need balance and structure from YOU.

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Tip #2

Let the kid know that they can quit the activity you want

for them when they turn 18. Then set shorter term yearly

goals for them within the activity.

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This really, really works. They will feel more in control. And

guess what... by time they hit 18 the activity will be a part

of their character and they won’t want to quit. Because they

will actually be experts by then.

In part 3 I will discuss how extra curricula activities and not

academics are the cure for the poor attitudes and the lack

of work ethic in our society.

All the best.

Sensei D’Arcy Rahming

9th degree Black Belt

Trainer of Olympians and Life Champions

click here for a schedule of my classes