Part 2 of Why Extra Curricula Activities May be More Important
than Academics.
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If you let your kid quit the extra curricula activity that you
want for them when it gets tough or boring, the kid will blame
you for it later. This is a fact.
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Kids that I taught in primary school are now taking my class in
College. Many of them say the exact same things “ I wish my
Mom (Dad) had not let me quit. I would be a Black Belt by now.”
Worse for me is counseling a young person who says their
parents were afraid to be parents and instead let them do what
they wanted, and now they are leading a life of average.
Which as we all know average today is a life on the bottom.
Read the book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters
(Margaret J. Meeker MD) and it will
give you the scientific evidence of what I am telling you.
In the case of girls they are apparently just testing you to
see if they are worth fighting for. They are not necessarily
rebelling against the activity.
In the case of guys many of them do not want to be
interrupted in what they are doing now. For example,
if they are watching TV or playing a video game, it is
not that they do not want to go to practice, it is more
that you are breaking their pattern of thought.
Kids need balance and structure from YOU.
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Tip #2
Let the kid know that they can quit the activity you want
for them when they turn 18. Then set shorter term yearly
goals for them within the activity.
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This really, really works. They will feel more in control. And
guess what... by time they hit 18 the activity will be a part
of their character and they won’t want to quit. Because they
will actually be experts by then.
In part 3 I will discuss how extra curricula activities and not
academics are the cure for the poor attitudes and the lack
of work ethic in our society.
All the best.
Sensei D’Arcy Rahming
9th degree Black Belt
Trainer of Olympians and Life Champions
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